ADHD Friendly Resolutions: Make It Happen!

Did you make New Years resolutions?  Have you achieved them yet?  Are you stuck?  If you need some ideas to gain momentum, read on!  If you have already achieved your resolutions, congratulations and please leave a comment to share your success with others!

If you are feeling stuck, the following 5 Steps to Turning Your Resolutions Into Reality will help you move forward.

Step 1: Identify Challenges

Spend more time than you think you need on identifying challenges. If your general goal is to make more money, spend time identifying what gets in your way of making more money. I also recommend brainstorming with someone to help you think through the challenges that you are facing.

Step 2: Set Goals

Focus on setting SMART Goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely.

Specific:

  • By being very specific you increase your changes of achieving your goals. If you want to get more organized, be specific about what you want to organize and how organized you want it to be. For example, if you want to organize your desk, you want to think about what area of your desk is most troublesome and how you can phrase your goal to ensure you tackle your biggest challenge.

Measurable:

  • Measurement is key to making sure that you know when you reach your goal. For a simple illustration, think of a weight loss goal. It is much more meaningful to say I want to lose 10 pounds than to say I want to lose weight. You can apply this to other challenges too.

Attainable:

  • It is key to have attainable goals to ensure you do not give up before you reach success. Looking at an organization goal, if your whole office is disorganized right now, it might be too overwhelming to get and keep the whole office organized. You might want to start with a specific area or even one desk drawer.

Realistic:

  • Similar to Attainable goals, this characteristic helps my clients to keep moving towards their goals

Timely:

  • Putting realistic deadlines using specific dates is key to your success.

It is also important to visualize your goals. I  recommend that my clients post their goal somewhere that they can see it. If you artistically inclined you can make a picture – if not, find a picture on the internet or post a written version of your goal so you can see it.

Step 3: Action Plan

When developing your action plan, keep a few simple principles in mind.

  • Take small steps and you will make progress towards your resolutions.
  • Post a checklist as a reminder of your action plan
  • Reward yourself with something that is valuable. During our teleclass on this topic, Cheryl Heppard and I discussed, rewards do not need to be  expensive, but they do need to mean something to you. Be creative with your rewards.

Step 4: Take Action – START!

Do not wait for your plan to be perfect before you implement it. If you look for perfection you might let key opportunities for improvement pass by you. Also remember to keep with your action plan for at least 21 days to develop a new habit. It might be 28 days or even a couple months if you are making a major change. When you are taking action, remember to give yourself positive feedback, celebrate your wins and keep going after setbacks.

Step 5: Measure Success

Whether you use a scale, financial report, checklist, journal or another tool you must measure success and track progress. If you don’t, you’ll never really know if you have achieved your goal and when it is time to move on to the next goal. It also helps to discuss your goals with a coach, spouse, business partner, friend or other supportive person in your live.

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Adult ADHD Support Group at CHADD of Eastern Oakland County

Adult ADHD Support Group; CHADD Meeting; Bloomfield Hills, MI

 

January 4, 2010

7:30 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. FREE to CHADD Members or $5 donation

 

Join us to discuss the ADHD challenges that you face and identify realistic solutions in a supportive environment.  Do you have new goals for 2010 – come discuss them with your peers!

 

Pre-registration is not required.  Meetings are held at Way Elementary School, 765 West Long Lake Road, Bloomfield Hills, MI 48302.

 

If you are interested in joining CHADD, see their website at www.CHADD.org.


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Difference between ADHD and ADD?

As an Attention and ADHD Coach I am often asked, “What is the difference between ADHD and ADD?”.  And then to add to the confusion, what about AD/HD?

In short, there is not a difference because all of the acronyms refer to the diagnosis of Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. For more details regarding why different acronyms are used, read on and check out the links below.

  •  The American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual-IV, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR) is defines Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder using a list of criteria. For a full criteria list, you can go to this link on the CDC’s website: http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/diagnosis.html
  • Since the official name is Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, the official acronym is AD/HD. 
  • ADHD is used by many people (including myself) because AD/HD can be cumbersome to read and type. 
  • The term ADD is an older term that was used before hyperactivity was included into the name. It is still used informally today to describe AD/HD when someone doesn’t have hyperactivity. 

For more information, I would encourage you to check out www.Help4ADHD.org and, more specifically, http://www.help4adhd.org/en/about/what

 What acronym do you usually use?  What questions do you have about the acronyms?

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Barbara Coloroso Speaks at CHADD International Conference

I am so happy to have the opportunity to attend the international conference of CHADD this week.  If you have read my other posts and/or are familiar with ADHD, you know that CHADD is the organization for Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.  

Barbara Colorosa was the keynote speaker for tonight’s conference opening and she was phenomenal.  She has a book titled “Kids Are Worth It!” and the title of her talk was “Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline.”  You can find more information on her website at www.KidsAreWorthIt.com.  If you aren’t familiar with Barbara, you should check it out (especially the handouts and book selections).

There was so much to learn from her, I could type for hours.  Instead, I thought I would share the messages that resonated with me the most.  You can apply these concepts to any child and I think they are especially helpful for children with ADHD.  She talked about T.A.O. which she uses to represent Time, Affection and Optimism.  An underlying theme of her talk was that we should treat our kids the way we want to be treated.  Simple, but powerful, isn’t it?  

She started me thinking about ways I can implement T.A.O. at home with my own kids.  

From the Time standpoint, I spend more time with my kids now that I’m not in the corporate world, but Barbara has me thinking…. am I spending real quality time with them?  Sure, I’m home, but if I’m at the computer when I could be talking and visiting with them am I missing something?  I will challenge myself to spend more real time with my kids and be more present for them.

I think I do pretty well with Affection, except when the kids have misbehaved.  So the next time one of my kids misbehaves, I need to figure out how to stay more calm and show them affection while teaching them how to take responsibility for their mistake.  Barbara gave an example of time outs being used more as a cooling off period than a punishment – she mentioned that the cooling off period could be sitting on mom’s lap for younger children.  Something interesting to think about isn’t it?

Optimism presents a lot of different opportunities for me to model it to my kids.  In addition, I want to help them to learn to think more optimistically about school, friends, activities and life in general.  

If you are a parent, I would be thrilled to hear from you on this topic.  What do you think about T.A.O.?  How can you implement these principles in your home?

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Self-Advocate in College when you have ADHD

Are you going back to college this fall or just starting?  Do you have ADHD?  Other time management or attention-related concerns?  It is important that you self-advocate for yourself!  This will help set you up for a successful semester.  

In college, you have less outside structure than you did in high school.  If you are starting college, this will, of course be new for you and you may want to think about how to create structure for yourself.   A few ideas to get started with self-advocating are listed below…

  • If you have been diagnosed with ADHD or a learning disability, contact the disability services office on your campus.  If you aren’t sure of the name at your school, just search for disability services and the name of your school.
  • Talk to your professors and teaching assistants about the support that you need.  Even if you have accommodations from the disability services office, conversation with professors and teaching assistants will ensure a common understanding among everyone.
  • Consider your learning style and how you can maximize your strengths in school.

For more information about self-advocating, I recommend “Self Advocacy for College Students” on www.ldonline.org.

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