Barbara Coloroso Speaks at CHADD International Conference

I am so happy to have the opportunity to attend the international conference of CHADD this week.  If you have read my other posts and/or are familiar with ADHD, you know that CHADD is the organization for Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.  

Barbara Colorosa was the keynote speaker for tonight’s conference opening and she was phenomenal.  She has a book titled “Kids Are Worth It!” and the title of her talk was “Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline.”  You can find more information on her website at www.KidsAreWorthIt.com.  If you aren’t familiar with Barbara, you should check it out (especially the handouts and book selections).

There was so much to learn from her, I could type for hours.  Instead, I thought I would share the messages that resonated with me the most.  You can apply these concepts to any child and I think they are especially helpful for children with ADHD.  She talked about T.A.O. which she uses to represent Time, Affection and Optimism.  An underlying theme of her talk was that we should treat our kids the way we want to be treated.  Simple, but powerful, isn’t it?  

She started me thinking about ways I can implement T.A.O. at home with my own kids.  

From the Time standpoint, I spend more time with my kids now that I’m not in the corporate world, but Barbara has me thinking…. am I spending real quality time with them?  Sure, I’m home, but if I’m at the computer when I could be talking and visiting with them am I missing something?  I will challenge myself to spend more real time with my kids and be more present for them.

I think I do pretty well with Affection, except when the kids have misbehaved.  So the next time one of my kids misbehaves, I need to figure out how to stay more calm and show them affection while teaching them how to take responsibility for their mistake.  Barbara gave an example of time outs being used more as a cooling off period than a punishment – she mentioned that the cooling off period could be sitting on mom’s lap for younger children.  Something interesting to think about isn’t it?

Optimism presents a lot of different opportunities for me to model it to my kids.  In addition, I want to help them to learn to think more optimistically about school, friends, activities and life in general.  

If you are a parent, I would be thrilled to hear from you on this topic.  What do you think about T.A.O.?  How can you implement these principles in your home?

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AD/HD Awareness Week 2009

The week of September 14, 2009 is designated as AD/HD Awareness Week by CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) in order to celebrate the progress that has been made in raising awareness and also evaluate how much work lies ahead.

CHADD helps educate the public about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is asking for help to increase awareness about the importance of identifying and treating it early in life.  Early diagnosis is important for many reasons.  

  • For starters, it enables parents to develop a plan to address challenges that their child is having.  
  • When a plan is developed, it can also help maintain the child’s self-esteem.  
  • A child can also learn to better self-advocate for themselves and develop coping strategies that will help them as they go through school and their working careers.  
  • Many adults who have been diagnosed later in life wish they had known what was wrong earlier.  
  • Please share your thoughts about early diagnosis by leaving a comment.

If you are concerned that your child may have AD/HD, you owe it to yourself and your child to find out more.  You have made a great start by doing some on-line research.  I encourage you to check out CHADD’s website if you haven’t already done so and talk to your child’s doctor to determine whether a diagnosis is appropriate.  If your doctor is not well-versed in AD/HD, it will be helpful to meet with a child psychologist or neurologist as they are likely to know more about the disorder and effective treatments.

To help raise awareness, CHADD will hold a radio news tour during the week of September 14-20. Board president Marie Paxson will take to the airwaves to share her experience as a mother of two grown children with AD/HD, and CHADD members across the country will hold community events and share science-based information with their neighbors.  Please look for local events in your area.

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Self-Advocate in College when you have ADHD

Are you going back to college this fall or just starting?  Do you have ADHD?  Other time management or attention-related concerns?  It is important that you self-advocate for yourself!  This will help set you up for a successful semester.  

In college, you have less outside structure than you did in high school.  If you are starting college, this will, of course be new for you and you may want to think about how to create structure for yourself.   A few ideas to get started with self-advocating are listed below…

  • If you have been diagnosed with ADHD or a learning disability, contact the disability services office on your campus.  If you aren’t sure of the name at your school, just search for disability services and the name of your school.
  • Talk to your professors and teaching assistants about the support that you need.  Even if you have accommodations from the disability services office, conversation with professors and teaching assistants will ensure a common understanding among everyone.
  • Consider your learning style and how you can maximize your strengths in school.

For more information about self-advocating, I recommend “Self Advocacy for College Students” on www.ldonline.org.

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Managing Email

Can you check your email only once or twice per day?  Yes, I said only once or twice!  I, like many of you, often check email whenever it comes to my in box.  When I check email only once or twice per day, I spend much less time on email.  Most importantly, I save time by avoiding multiple transitions between tasks.  Transitioning between tasks can add time to both the task I was doing and reading email so it ends up being a lose-lose proposition.  When you check email as it comes in, you are more likely to rush through your response.  Reading and responding to email in chunks of scheduled time can help you focus on the email at hand and give it the attention it needs.

Give it a try and let us know how it goes.  Time yourself before and after – did this idea help you save time?

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